Wedding Planning Wonders
A Bride's Guide to Avoiding Marriage-Day Meltdown
When wedding planning gets tough, brides can rely on these fool-proof suggestions to relieve some of the frazzle, and focus on the dazzle.
Getting married is a dirty job, but somebody has to do it.
It is obvious that weddings are expensive. It is also fair to say that they are stressful (as demonstrated by terms like "Bridezilla" and "Monster Bride"). But there are ways to avoid the sideways glances and rumours from family members who are afraid to speak to the bride lest she crack and break down into blubbering sobs.
Firstly, and possibly most importantly, is that the bride must allow her friends to help her plan her big day. A lot of brides see asking for help as a sign of weakness, but friends, family and the wedding party are all valuable resources for a bride in a bind.
Little things, like preparing favours, printing address labels (or, gasp, hand-writing the envelopes) and creating hand-made bouquets can be not only money-saving, but fun, with the help of a good support network.
Another important, sanity-saver is a helpful fiancé. Now, blessed is the bride whose groom wants to play a big role in planning the wedding. But it takes two to tango, waltz or rumba, and so too does the wedding planning require effort on the part of bride and groom. Asking the husband-to-be to cover tasks like tying ribbons or writing thank-you notes can be a recipie for an unhappy hubby. Giving him more fun things to do, like helping register for gifts (he gets to hold the scanning "gun") or printing the invitations (he gets to play with the mouse) makes him happy because he can have a little fun while feeling like part of the action, and makes the bride happy because she gets time with her future husband, while things are getting done! A helpful fiancé can alleviate wedding stresses, and also take part in one of the biggest days of his life. Even if he won't admit it, he'll be glad he was cast behind the scenes.
One more helpful hint is purely psychological. It is, simply, the realization that not everything will go perfectly on the wedding day, no matter how hard the bride tries. Flowers may be missing, pants may be too short, or maybe even not there at all. It is vital to remember that a bride will not be judged by a chocolate cake that was supposed to be marble. She will be judged, however, if she throws the cake on the ground and stomps off in a tantrum.
The real secret to a frazzle-free fete is the ability to laugh at the little stuff, and enjoy the day, come what may.
