How to Regain Control of Your Wedding
Getting Married on Your Terms
Jan 7, 2009 Stephen Richardson
The costs, invites, and family and friends can add to this pressure, making what is supposed to be the greatest day in your life into a stressful one.
However, the key thing to remember is that this day is yours, and regardless of what decisions you may make, you will not be able to please everyone. In order to experience that special day you’ve both dreamt of, the key is to try and keep control of it, as it’s easy to lose this control with the amount of people that may be involved.
The Wedding Party
The misconception most people have about their wedding is that they feel everyone else will be feeling the same elation they are about their special day. The truth is that although most people will be sharing your joy as you tie the knot, someone somewhere will be feeling the complete opposite, due to the fact their partner, friend or child has not been included in the guest list.
Not only is it close to impossible to please everyone, your finances and budget may simply prevent you from being able to invite the world and his wife, especially in today’s current climate. However, the simple way to combat this is through one of two ways.
If your budget allows, why not send open invitations? However, if finances are an issue (as they are with most of us) your wedding reception does not have to consist of a formal sit down 5 course meal; it could simply be in the form of a less formal buffet.That way you don’t necessarily need to buy more food and drinks, and stress about seating plans and other related issues that may stem from invitations.
It can be appreciated that not everyone will be in the position to send open invitations. Furthermore, they may not be anywhere closer to this aim, even with plans to hold a buffet reception. However there is a simple cost effective way to save you money, prevent any one person from feeling left out, and avoid the unnecessary petty wedding arguments or fights. This is to simply not hold a wedding reception at all.
Although it is the expected thing to do upon getting married, and the decision of not holding one will more than likely go down as an unpopular one, just ask yourselves the question ‘Why are we getting married’? If the answer is to have a party then this may not necessarily be the option you take. However, if it is to become one with your soul mate and life partner, then is a reception completely and utterly necessary? You decide.
Just the Two of You
Although it is easy to objectively reel off a list of things to say and do in order to regain the control over your wedding, theory and practice are two completely different concepts, and it can be appreciated how difficult doing and saying these things to your loved ones may be, especially when in their own way they really do only have your best interests at heart.
A way to get the wedding that both of you want, control your guest list, retain control over your big day, and save a little money during the process is to simply get married abroad. This way you get the wedding you both want, get your honeymoon included, and can hand pick the people you want there with you (if anyone at all).
The romantic adventure you both plan to embark on is based around you, and what you both want. Eloping abroad is becoming more and more common, as well as socially acceptable; therefore your family and friends will be more likely to hold no grudges if you elope in a foreign country, as opposed to simply not inviting them to your wedding a few miles down the road!
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