Flower Girl Etiquette
The Flower-Bearer`s Responsibilities as Part of the Wedding Party
The flower girl usually steals the show during a wedding ceremony. What are her responsibilities and how should she act. Learn more...
Cute flower girls can add a sweet touch to your wedding ceremony. Traditionally, a girl (or girls) between the ages of four and eight will be chosen, although one younger or older is perfectly acceptable. Your flower girl should take her responsibilities seriously and should look like an angel coming down the aisle. Here is a look at the responsibilities and etiquette of a flower girl.
Attendance During Wedding-Related Events
You will want your flower girl to attend most wedding-related events, such as the bridal shower and any other pre-wedding party (except, of course, the bachelorette party). It is also their responsibility to attend any and all rehearsals, parties and/or dinners afterwards. Depending on the age of the child, this may be difficult. A very young child may not have the patience to attend long parties and dinners, so it is important that the parents understand they can leave with the child if it becomes necessary. When attending rehearsal dinners, your little flower girl will want to exhibit nice table manners. You may want to consider giving her a book of etiquette beforehand.
The Big Day
When the day of the wedding arrives, your flower girl will be responsible for leading the processional down the aisle. It is up to you, but generally, the flower girl will scatter flowers or rose petals down the aisle. You may also opt to hand out single flowers to the guests. The choice is yours, but you can bet that your flower girl will look forward to this event.
During the ceremony, she will stand near the bridesmaids during the entire ceremony. However, if the child is fidgety or is very young, you can give her the option of sitting with her family during the ceremony. This may be a good idea if the ceremony is long. Have her parents sit near the front if you choose this option. Your flower girl will be expected to be on her best behavior before, during and after the ceremony. Smiling and being pleasant is not an option!
Posing for Pictures
The flower girl will also be expected to pose for formal photographs. Make sure that she understands that this is a big responsibility and that she should smile and do as the photographer instructs. You don't want a silly little girl making this process take any longer than it already does.
At the Reception
Once the ceremony is over, your flower girl can relax. She should not be expected to stand in the receiving line (unless she is the sister of the bride or groom) and does not sit at the head table, unless you choose to let her do so. Instead, allow her to stay with her family and have a good time at the reception. She has worked hard and deserves a little fun, within reason, of course.
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